As we yield to God's wooing, God's calling, God's counsel and advice we begin to be calmed, assured, to be confident and hopeful. We begin to be able to think about things rather than being caught in an abyss of fear and distress and hopelessness.
Here is a good question when I need to make a decision: What are the voices in my head saying?
Do they repeat the worst that has been said to my by the World? Things like, "I'm a mess. I don't deserve good things. When challenges arise it is proof I'm a bad person, God does not care about me. I'm too insignificant for a god if there is a god to care about me. I always ruin things. I'm too broken to be loved. I never get anything right." I'm do not understand why we are so quick to believe the worst about ourselves, but we are too often uncomfortable affirming our better selves and too quick to assume others are in some way "better"--not behaving better but "are better."
As we become acquainted with God we begin to see these lies for the trash they are. God does not create trash. Christ did not die for trash. God created us for a purpose, with natural abilities and with resources like family and community and education, and with challenges that will inform us and teach us that we might be loving to God's other sons and daughters.
If you find things running amok through your head I hope you will squeeze in a prayer. As you keep practicing it will become easier and will open your life to peace, wiser choices, more kindness given and received, and a new perspective. Peace will wash over obsession and love will overcome fear.
Slowly we can drown the habit of negative self-talk. We can affirm God's words to us, accept God's value of us. God sees you as worthy of the sacrifice of Jesus. There is no valid reason to see yourself as less than that.
If you are struggling with this you might want to check out some of these things that God says about you, the daughter of the King of Kings: 1 John 4:4, 1 John 4:16, 1 John 5:3-4, 1 John 5:14-15, 2 Timothy 2:15; Psalm 139:13, Psalm 139:14, Ephesians 1:4, Ephesians 1:4, Mark 11:24 and hundreds of others.