No one else can interpret God’s Will in your life for you -- not your friends or your church friends, not your pastor or your parents, not your spouse or your children. My second husband was a godly man with the disease of alcoholism running back four generations that we know of. He struggled every day to be the man He believed God wanted him to be. He stumbled often and grew much. But it was hard for him, for all of us. I was told by some I “had to stay in the marriage” by folks proclaiming that God says divorce is a sin. Others were adamant that I needed to “get out because you deserve better.”
Neither was the best answer for me. In fact I believe that much of the important foundation building I did was a function of Al-Anon and co-dependency work and counseling that I might never have been exposed to without working to understand my husband's disease and my broken responses to it. Here I learned both that God is trustworthy and constant and loving, and that I was capable of learning to God's shine light into my life and the lives of those I love. I hold gently the experience, painful as it was because I would not have many of my strongest parts, most forgiving, most healed parts without the experience.
So I believe that if you are living between the extremes of advice, you are probably doing as well as can be expected.
No one else can interpret God’s Will in your life for you.