No matter how much we love our beloved affected by incarceration or criminal behavior, nor matter how we long to makes things safe for loved ones who suffer because of choices they did not make, we have no authority over them. As much as we long for things to be better, we cannot make them better. We don't, in the final light of truth, really even know what they need and we certainly don't have it in our power to give it to them.
Have you ever realized you cared passionately about fixing something for someone you love and realized you care a whole lot more than they do about getting if fixed? They are unwilling to commit the time, energy, focus, money or just plain care to even try? See, here is the problem: we cannot make them care and, truly, we don't understand in any clear way what it is that is in the way of them caring. But God not only knows, God has the authority and the power and the will and the wisdom to handle all that. So...we need to get out of God's way and, yes, mind our own beeswax, which for me is a full time job!
Besides, I have learned this is a truly good and amazing arrangement. So many things that I have longed for, begged for, prayed for, sacrificed for, so many of these thing things that I now understand would have caused much harm.
We have no authority over the journey of another.