Prayer matters. This is vital because by tending my own spiritual needs, living the life of purpose for which I was born, I am not abandoning my loved ones. After years of caring more about their well-being than they did themselves, it is likely to feel like I am abandoning them.
Please understand: It Is NOT ABANDONING THEM. IT IS NOT ABANDONING THEM to tend my own spiritual needs. Rather it is essential that I do so. If I am broken and without hope how can I expect them to believe there is hope: hope for a future, hope for a productive life, hope for healing and renewal and redemption at the hands of a God who loves them, longs to heal them, has a purpose for their life.
So when you are feeling drawn back into ineffective ways of interacting please remember Bill & Jackie.
Bill & Jackie’s beloved oldest son made many bad choices including walking away from his wife and young children. But Jackie and Bill prayed. They prayed together. They prayed passionately. They prayed believing in God’s redemptive grace. This summer, long after Jackie’s death and with Bill too frail to attend, that son prayed aloud at his newest grandchild’s baptismal festivities. He prayed aloud over his children and grandchildren, he prayed for our children and grandchildren. It was amazing.