Over the next few days I will use this space to share some things that have proved important to me on my journey.
Today I want to claim this truth: While our journeys are parallel, they are separate and unique
Though our journeys are parallel, they are separate and unique. What I mean is this: just as I could not do "time" behind bars for my incarcerated loved one, so I can not transfer the benefit of my experience to him through a feeding tube to give him the knowledge, judgement and wisdom that will inform his life. Frankly this feeding tube idea is appealing to me because watching him transform from caterpillar to butterfly is very painful.
My experience is unique to me and I believe I have knowledge and wisdom, faith, hope and experience. But my son must find his own way. He will learn things I will never fully appreciate. He will not need some of the things that were important for my journey. We are on this journey bound by love, but requiring respect, boundaries and wisdom to stay out of each other's way.
While our journeys are parallel, they are separate and unique.