When I pray first, I open my heart to God's wisdom in what to say that my words might not increase stress or cause other unnecessary distress. When I pray first I let go of the ghosts of my own old, not quite fully dispersed fears that reduce my ability to hear well what others are truly saying. When I pray first I manage better, care for others and myself better, remember more fully that helping others is not about me.
When I pray for my children and grandchildren I don't carry my fears into their lives, but instead shine the love and hope of God by example ... OK, and sometimes by words, but words more likely to come from the Spirit of God than from my own ideas of what they need.
When I pray I quit focusing on my own fears and concerns and am comforted and empowered by this truth: God is bigger than whatever I am facing today. All my tomorrows are under God's authority. I am the beloved daughter of the King of Kings!
I can affirm with confidence and hope: PRAYER MATTERS
Mark 11: 24 Therefore I say to you, whatever you pray and ask for, believe that you will receive it, and it will be so for you.